What is romance anyway? The dictionary isn’t any help:
ro·mance (r-mns, rmns) n.
a. A love affair.
b. Ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people
c. A strong, sometimes short-lived attachment, fascination, or enthusiasm for something.
Somehow that definition leaves me in a bit of a mental loop, and don’t get me started with “what is SL romance?” So, I’ve decided to go out on the limb here and figure this thing out. First of all, I think both men and women need romance. And I think the specifics of what is romantic varies between men and women. I’m pretty sure that most guys would agree that there is no romance if there is no sex. And I’m sure most women would agree that there is no romance if there is no love. I believe that there is no romance unless a man and a woman find a balance between satisfying their own needs and satisfying their partner’s needs and desires. When that kind of thing happens naturally, I think that is romance.
All of us are selfish at some level of our beingness, and we all know someone who is much more selfish than we are, so we understand selfishness at a fundamental human level. Wow! Did I just say that? So, my idea is that when you meet someone who causes you to stop focusing on your own needs and wants, and you do things for that someone to demonstrate your caring, then you are romantic. It’s like both of you feel, “I love who I am with him/her” (I reworded that from the a line from the movie The Brave One). I think this feeling is an absolute.
What I’ve just said is kind of a big “duh!”, but I want to put this out here because I want to write more about romance, especially SL romance in the coming days. I have writing fever right now and have a lot of things I want to express.